White Silk Wellness

General Questions

• How do I schedule an appointment?
  • You can find my contact information here.
• What types of payment do you accept?
  • I accept e-Transfer or cash.
• How private is the space?
  • I have a treatment room in my home in Davis Bay. While I have a tenant in the lower suite, there is nobody in my section of the house at the time of the session.
  • Please note: My treatment room is a scent-free environment. Please do not wear any perfumes or colognes.
• Are you located on a bus route?
  • Yes, I am located near the bus stops at the intersection of the highway and Davis Bay Road.
  • Please note: There is a short 5-10 minute walk to my home from there, which includes a hill.
• What if I have to use the bathroom?
  • Breaks can be taken as necessary. If I have not offered one, please ask.
• How does consent work during bodywork services (including Hot Stone Massage, White Tantra Therapeutic Massage and Touch Therapy Massage)?
  • At White Silk Wellness, we take everyone's consent very seriously. At any time, you can request the service be stopped, paused or that a specific area of your body not be touched. For White Tantra Therapeutic Massage and Touch Therapy Massage, I will check in with you often, to verbally reaffirm your consent, especially when moving to more intimate areas of the body. You may revoke consent at any time, including during the service, or after you have given your consent and we're already working on a specific body part. It is okay to change your mind, and we will always listen!
• Am I allowed to touch you?
  
  • Yes, but you must always receive my consent. 
  • During the majority of services: There may be times when I will offer physical comfort or somatic therapy. If you need physical comfort and I have not offered, please ask.
  • During White Tantra Therapeutic Massage: There is a time when I give permission for you to hold onto my ankles during the genital portion of the massage. During other moments, you can ask me to touch me in a non-sexual manner, and if it is appropriate, I will give consent.
    
• What if my question is not answered in this FAQ?
  • You can find my contact information here. Email is preferred, but you can also call or text me with any questions that are not answered here.

Questions Specific to White Tantra Therapeutic Massage

• Are there any age limitations?
  • Yes. This service is 19+.
• Why does the first session include a MANDATORY, 30-minute, pre-massage coaching/counselling session?
  • At its heart, a White Tantra Therapeutic Massage is meant to aid those who receive it in healing some part of themself. Sometimes, it can be as simple as seeking to ease the touch deprivation of someone who doesn't have the time or inclination to form a long-term relationship with another person. More often, my clients have some underlying concern with their relationship or body image or have a lack of sexual desire; others have medical conditions, such as erectile dysfunction or pre-mature ejaculation or pain conditions, that cause strain in their sex life. In my experience, talking about their concerns can act as both an emotion release within a safe space and aid me in their massage.
  • This is also a time to get to know one another, if you haven't seen me before, as well as a chance for you to ask any questions about the service and what to expect.
• Can I receive a coaching/counselling session before or after all of my sessions?
  • Yes, of course! After the initial session, you can choose to either book a massage only session or to include a coaching/counselling session. Many of my clients find that they enjoy chatting with me, in order to get my perspective on various things affecting their life.
• Why am I asked what my intention is?
  • Intention is one of the ways we receive what we are looking for. The awareness of what brings you here is an important part of your perception of the benefits and guiding the session.
• What are some examples of an intention?
  • Examples include the following:
    • healing the body and nervous system from abuse
    • connecting your spiritual self to sexual energy
    • expanding your tolerance to sexual energy to elongate the pleasure in your personal life, and
    • receiving touch therapy
• Why do we talk—in a more general manner—before and after the session?
  • Before the session, we talk about intention to ensure our goals are still aligned and understood based on what was discussed during previous visits. Afterwards, if you would like to, you can share anything that you have learned from reflecting on your experience. A short post-session chat also acts as something of a liminal safe space, before you leave and go on with your day, allowing you to more slowly rejoin the "real world."
• Why do I have to sign a waiver?
  • Waivers help to keep both parties safe and are agreements between both parties where consent is negotiated in advance. They serve as a way to set out clear boundaries and expectations. The waiver sets out more protections for both me and you due to the sexual nature of the treatment.
  • Please note: Either party can terminate the session at any point.
• What should I wear?
  • I suggest you wear something comfortable and flexible for the Sun Salutations. Please come scent free (no cologne or perfume) and recently bathed.
  • Please Note: Massage oil can stain clothing and may transfer from your skin to the clothing you leave in.
• Do I need to shave?
  • No. You may shave or wax if you desire, but it is not required.
• What kind of massage oil is used?
  • I use natural almond oil. If you prefer something else, please bring it with you; the only requirement is that it is scent-free.
• Why is acupressure included?
  • I use acupressure to enhance the opening of the heart chakra and connection to the spirit. If you prefer acupressure is not used, please discuss it before the start of the session.
• How is the massage structured?
  • Typically, after speaking about our intentions and goals, the massage will start with several modified Sun Salutations, which are adjusted as needed for your fitness ability. We will then go into the treatment room for a heart meditation. Afterwards, I will leave the room so you can unrobe, and once you are lying face down, I will enter and begin. I will be in my higher self and ignite your sexual energy. I will then start to use a combination of massage and acupressure on your upper back, moving down through your glutes, backs of the legs, and feet. You will turn over, and I will continue the treatment on your chest, arms, and abdomen before finishing with your legs, after which a break will be offered. Next, I will reaffirm consent and begin on your genitals. Once the main parts of the body are complete, I will move to your skull and face to help integrate the energy. Finally, I will finish at your feet. I will leave to wash up, providing you time to reflect and get dressed. Before the session ends, there will be an opportunity for you to share any feelings or thoughts about your experience with me.
• Is a White Tantra Therapeutic Massage always sexual?
  • No! At its heart, White Tantra Therapeutic Massage is a spiritual practice with sexual undertones. It is up to you how much the massage leans into the sexual. If you are disconnected or blocked from your sexuality, a White Tantra Therapeutic Massage may help connect with or unblock your sexuality. The session is guided by what you feel comfortable with and want.
• What if I say no to the genitals? Do I get a refund of any sort?
  • No, the massage will continue without the genitals. The session's time allowance will be used elsewhere.
• Are you a "rub and tug service?"
  • No. While White Tantra Therapeutic Massage includes sexual elements, it is quite different from a sexual massage. It does not involve me actively urging you towards an orgasm. As noted below, I will discuss the particulars of orgasming during the massage with you prior to your first session.
• Am I allowed to orgasm?
  • Yes, I will discuss this topic at the beginning of your session.
• Can I be vocal with my pleasure?
  • I encourage you to be yourself, which includes the full expression of how you are feeling throughout the session. This includes expressing to me if you are uncomfortable as well as any natural vocalizations.
• What are the benefits of not orgasming?
  • Sexual energy has the ability to move throughout the body, and not discharging this energy has several benefits. These benefits include expanding your tolerance to sexual energy to enjoy it for longer periods of time, encouraging the sexual energy to remain alive with your romantic partner, and keeping your life force with you, particularly for men, who lose energy after discharging.
  • You can read more about the Benefits of White Tantra Therapeutic Massage here.
• What do you wear?
  • I wear comfortable clothes. During White Tantra Therapeutic Massages, I am not naked or topless.
• Will I be warm enough?
  • I keep the room very warm, and I have blankets available if you want to be warmer.
• What if I am out of shape? Can I still do this?
  • Of course, everybody—no matter the shape—is welcome.
• Do I need to groom my genital areas before the session?
  • No, this is not necessary.
• Can I shower afterwards?
  • Upon request, yes. Otherwise, it is preferred that you absorb the oil and the energy infused during the session. Taking a shower washes away some of the benefits.